As parents and caregivers, it can be difficult to understand the complexities of our teen’s mind.

We often see them exhibit behaviors that we may not understand or agree with, or behaviors that seem like overreactions. However, it is important to recognize that these behaviors may be a result of defense mechanisms. In this blog post, we will discuss what defense mechanisms are, and highlight some of the most common. In a subsequent post, we will get into how you can support your teen when you recognize some of these mechanisms coming up.

Defense mechanisms are psychological strategies that we use to protect ourselves from emotional pain or discomfort. They are unconscious and can manifest in various ways. These mechanisms are a normal part of human development, and can help us cope with difficult situations. However, when they become excessive or maladaptive, they can have negative effects on our mental health and relationships.

If your teen constantly criticizes their friend’s appearance, it may be a sign that they are struggling with their own self-image.

One of the most common defense mechanisms is Denial. This is when a person refuses to accept reality or acknowledge a certain aspect of themselves. Generally, this is happening at a subconscious level, yet some parts may tend towards the conscious side. In teens, this can manifest as refusing to take responsibility for their actions or denying that they have a problem. For example, if your teen gets into trouble at school, they may deny any wrongdoing and/or blame others instead.

Another common defense mechanism is Projection. This is when a person attributes their own unacceptable thoughts or feelings onto someone else. In teens, this can manifest as blaming others for their own mistakes or projecting their insecurities onto their peers. For example, if your teen constantly criticizes their friend’s appearance, it may be a sign that they are struggling with their own self-image. In another example, an insecure teen may might accuse others around them of being clingy or needy.

Rationalization is another defense mechanism that is often seen in teens. This is when a person creates a logical explanation for their behavior or feelings, even if it may not be entirely true. In teens, this can manifest as making excuses for their actions or minimizing the consequences of their behavior. For example, if your teen is caught skipping school, they may rationalize it by saying they needed a break from the stress of school.

One of the more harmful defense mechanisms is Repression. This is when a person unconsciously blocks out painful or traumatic memories or feelings. In teens, this can manifest as sudden mood swings or unexplained anger, and even show us as anxiety and/or depression symptoms. For example, if your teen experienced a traumatic event in their past, they may repress those memories and have outbursts of anger without understanding the root cause.

Check out our next Sage & Anchor weekly blog for Part 2, which includes strategies for how you can better recognize defense mechanisms and support your teen in the process!